18 Important Things I’ve Learnt Before 18

I’d like to think I’ve been taught some really useful life lessons on this journey so far and before I become a legal adult (18 damnnn), I’d like to share with you 18 of my favourites.

  1. It’s all about priorities… Prioritising wisely is probably one of the best pieces of advices I could give someone right now. 
  2. Friends will come and go and that’s okay, sometimes it’s better off that way.
  3. It’s not about who you’ve known the longest but about who’s entered your life and shown that they’re with you through it all. Sometimes you just click. If they’re the real deal, they will be more beneficial than someone you’ve known pretty much your whole life. 
  4. You may think it seems petty, but pay attention to the little things people do/don’t do – it usually provides an indication of what they’re really like and how they’ll be when it comes to more significant things. Maybe it’s just me but I love the little things and am one to pay close attention to detail.
  5. If you can meet a real good group of people from school/uni/work, you are so very fortunate. I have my best friends from high school, a few good high school friends and I have found a wonderful group of people I can gladly call my friends. I never did have heaps of friends and there was a time when I only had like 2 friends and like any young girl would feel, it made me really sad, which made my mother really sad. It is easy to have acquaintances and people you like to talk to who also enjoy talking to you. It is when you find people who get you, the ones you are totally yourself with, the people you are not trying to impress with anything more but the person you are and they love you for that. It’s the people who will stick by you through your best and worst times, who will listen to whatever you have to say, may put you in your place but respect you above all. I have found myself in a wonderful position in terms of friends and can surely say I without them I would not survive and be the person I am today.
  6. Only with the heart one can see rightly, but be sure to find the balance with your head. You must follow your heart but darling please use logic too and think things through.
  7. People aren’t gonna love the same way you do. They say it is a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply and I for one can confirm that. We’re all different in the way we handle emotions, that’s normal, how boring would it be if we all felt the same and understood each other at first sight, pfft an easy life was never promised. 
  8. Health is wealth. This cannot be stressed enough!!! On that note, try your best not to stress – your overall wellbeing is of upmost importance.
  9. Knowledge is power, but grades aren’t everything. I was always a high achiever in school and taught to really value education. For a long time I was so invested in ensuring I got top grades and achieving well academically I would forget more important things.
  10. Say yes to every opportunity but also know when to say no.
  11. No longer compare yourself to others. This is so crucial for your happiness and self-esteem and worth. As a competitive person I could not help but see myself in comparison with someone who was or appeared in a ‘better’ position than me.  It didn’t help that people around me would compare me to others whenever I made a slight error.
  12. Anything that is too much is never good. Ever. 
  13. Do your very best in everything you do. If you’re going to half-ass something, don’t waste your time. Nothing great has ever come from anyone doing a half-assed job. If you really want it, you should be willing to do whatever it takes. If you are not in the position you hoped to be in, at least you can look back with no regrets and can say that you did your very best.
  14. Watch good films, listen to great music, read wonderful stories, drink the best coffees/teas, eat amazing food. Note: Spectacular activities either alone or with quality company. Life is too short to watch bad movies, listen to music other people tell you to – unless their recommendations are your jams and read books you have no interest in.  Don’t settle for that mediocre instant coffee or tea that is no good. The same goes for alcoholic beverages, I understand living on a uni budget and all but buy that fancy cocktail and drink nice wine if you can. Do things that enhance your being and not just because you don’t want to be like everyone else or on the flip side just to be different.
  15. Karma – in its own time. This one is awesome! What goes around will come around. You know what sucks? How nasty some people can be and yet they appear so pleasant – the wolf in sheep clothing. They will get a taste of their medicine… Just give it time. The same goes for really good people, firstly keep up the great work because people like you are making everyday life better for someone.
  16. Believe. In anything and everything and most especially in yourself. 
  17. You are enough. You were always enough and will always be enough and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
  18. It is a gift to wake up every single day – make it count. You get one shot at this life, live everyday to the fullest.

 

With love and light always, Mon ❤


Edit: 18 instead of 17

We Are Sisters, We Stick Together 


I’m going to be honest, I love being a girl but it’s a difficult task.  I attended a conference exclusively for senior high school girls with the hopes of choosing the path to empowerment, boldness, resilience and beauty.

If you ever get the chance to listen to Vita Adam do a motivational speech, DO LISTEN! She’s a very inspiring lady whose vibe is just so energising. ❤ She reinforced all the very important issues and challenges we face and encouraged us to change the world.

To be BOLD is to be strong, confident, fearless but most importantly, courageous. Being bold in a society that’s constantly trying to confine us and push that we’re not good enough is a challenge.  If you want to try something, just have a go! If you want to try different hobbies or sports or food, just do it!  And don’t do it for others but for yourself. You can only fail if you don’t try.

Words are very powerful, especially names, and have either a positive or negative impact on us. The more they’re repeated, the more you believe them. I try to refrain from using negative and degrading language about other people both male and female, and also myself because it does nothing but make yourself look and feel bad. When asked to list the various good and bad things we call others and ourselves, I was honestly shocked by the amount of terrible and sad words girls call other girls, their ‘friends’, and themselves. I call my friends sugar, honey, babe, darling or just a nickname derived from his/her actual name.  Last year I also came to terms with myself and promised to only speak positively about myself, however not arrogantly. Even as a joke I really don’t see any humour in calling friends s1uts, b*tche$, id!ots or fat. Some people, maybe even some of you are thinking that I’m way too serious or can’t take a joke but that’s just proof of the belittling culture we live in. Why is it more common to find girls calling each other names with horrible definitions compared to kind positive names?

By us females calling each other certain names, we are also giving men permission to do so. We’re always trying to straighten up the guys and teach them to respect girls but we must start with each other. Like the Cheetah Girls said, “We are sisters, we stand together. We make up one big family, though we don’t look the same.” Girls, we have to look out for each other all the time.  Changing the world starts with you. Sure, the entire world isn’t going to change in an instant because we treat each other kinder but it’s a step in the right direction. No one is perfect and it’s natural to make mistakes but we need to practise a healthy culture, which includes a positive sisterhood, not only for ourselves but for younger girls – those who admire and look to us for guidance and as role models.

We are a beautiful specimen just as are males. Each one of us is unique, smart, and important. We must always remember to have courage and be kind.  It takes a strong wave to go against the current but we all have that power and can be amazing people. 

“Where there is woman, there is magic.” Ntozake Shange